Looking to the rules of parent’s thinking is that, they can improve their child behavior by punishing them and they never worried about the negative psychological consequence of this rule. By The hypothesis of clinical study its proven that if there are two groups of children, fifty with abnormal behavioral and others fifty with normal behavioral, parents take more aggressiveness for those abnormal behavioral children .From the parent’s corner they think if they are more stricter the children’s turn in better. By the clinical sample there are three types of punishments. To stop this aggressiveness of parents and teach them a beautiful discipline and modify their beliefs a strategy is proposed.
The use of physical punishment in child rearing is widespread throughout the world. Here is a terms to mean parenting education that He/she receives in His/her childhood by their parents or guardians. There are two types of employees with children typically punishment: which includes scolding and unfavorable opinion and produces physical pain. The latter can range from a slap or spanking to shocks, scratches, pinches, bites, burns, etc. Many consider that in its mild form, physical punishment is useful to teach the child what it means “no” and to behave appropriately. Also to protect it from further injury to emergencies. Physical punishment, when it reaches levels of abuse, after years associated with high risk of violent behavior and psychopathology.
The punishment produces problematic side effects:
1.it does not teach new behaviors, only temporarily suppressed, in the best case, undesirable behaviors.
2. Who is punished tends to avoid relate to who punished him.
3. Negative emotional complications and aggressive behavior may occur.
4. Who punishes feel temporarily strengthened to vent his anger, but that gratification can prevent being aware of the impact that the punishment has punished child can also be generated feelings of guilt in those who punishes to placate, which subsequently it tends to tolerate the presentation of the same or other negative behaviors.
When punishment is hard enough, it can cause the child effects such as hide from who punished him, lie and evade recognition of its responsibility for fear of retribution. In other words, it can destroy the sense of openness and trust in the relationship father-son, or alter the moral development of children. Other reasons for the undesirability of punishment are that it requires a lot of energy from rapper and that usually ends when it gets tired, not when the child behaves well. Many times parents use physical punishment because they know no other way to correct certain behaviors in their children or because they support wrong beliefs about discipline.
Sometimes we could see that most families’ mothers give physical punishments to their children whose have inappropriate behavior, temperamentally difficult or spoiled, without regard to its potential negative effects. You can even use them several times a day, and try to be justified on the grounds that the child makes her angry and lose control. In this way, the child is seen as a powerful adversary, not a small person in need of firm and loving guidance. These difficulties are observed more in the clinic in cases of children with disruptive behavior disorders, characterized by hyperactivity and those attitudes naysayers and antisocial. They are more mothers who apply physical punishment, perhaps because they are responsible for most of the work of parenting. And the parents of lower socio-cultural level tend to implement tougher disciplinary measures.
This study showed that parents of children with disruptive behavior tended to use them more aggressive parenting techniques compared to parents in the general population. The use of physical punishment from parents. We can say that it is not acceptable and that measures worth promoting its reduction by correcting inadequate beliefs and learning more respectful and effective means to exercise proper control disruptive behavior in children. So the escalation of violence and prevent its intergenerational transmission. Hence the desirability of inculcating the rejection of corporal punishment, convince parents and pediatricians should not use it, show drawbacks and teach other corrective techniques.